Tips for Getting Full Custody as a Father in California

Tips for Getting Full Custody as a Father in California

As a father in California, you may believe that it is impossible to get full custody. This is not true. While it was true decades ago that mothers almost always got full custody, the courts cannot legally take your gender in account when deciding on child custody matters. As a result, your best tips for getting full custody are the same we would give to a mother searching for full custody.

Remember That the Child’s Best Interest is Always the Focus of the Court

As you think about what makes you the best option, and about what your co-parent is likely to say, remember that at the end of the day, the best interest of your child is all the court is going to take into consideration. They do not care about you, the mother, and your personal struggles with each other. Do not bring in any baggage and keep the focus entirely on your child.

Your Child’s Bonds Will be a Big Part of the Decision

Of all the things you are considering focusing on, such as how much money you make or the school district you live in, remember that the court is going to consider who the child is bonded to as an important part of the decision making process. If the child already lives with one parent and thriving there, the court is going to be unlikely to take them out of that situation without a good reason. As a result, focus on the quality time you spend with your child and how bonded you are.

Do Not Coach Your Child

Depending on the age of your child, the judge may or may not ask them who their preference on who to live with. It can be tempting to coach your child on how to answer this but that is a mistake. Even if you do so gently and without ill intention, to simply prepare them for the question, know that the judge who will be questioning deals with children all day every day. They know when a child is simply repeating what their parent told them to and this will not reflect well on you.

Carefully Consider the Options

Why do you want full custody instead of joint custody? If your answer is because you believe that the other parent is unfit then you should continue seeking full custody. If you and the other parent live far away from each other, then you may want to consider full custody.

However, if you simply want your child around more, or you want to get back at their other parent, you should very seriously consider your options. If you and their other parent can agree on a schedule, you may get more time with them than if you take your chances with a judge. You can trust us at Kendall Gkikas & Mitchell to provide an honest assessment of your options when you call us at 909-482-1422.