The American Psychological Association has been very clear that while divorce can be traumatic to kids, most of the time they adjust within two years. That said, there are steps parents can take to make the transition shorter and easier. What does the APA suggest parents do? They suggest that parents keep the conflict away from their kids. At Kendall Gkikas & Mitchell, we’ve seen this work time and time again. Read on for some tips and then reach out to us at 909-482-1422 to get started.
There are other reasons that a positive divorce makes sense
While your child’s well-being is an important reason to work on a positive divorce, it’s not the only reason. It’s simply easier for everyone. It’s quicker, it’s more affordable, and it’s less stressful. The results will be the same either way – you will be divorced – but if you choose a positive option like mediation, it can be much easier than you may think.
Tips for finding success with a positive divorce
The first thing to do is to remember that your divorce isn’t a battle. Your goal is to avoid divorce litigation, which is almost always stressful and hostile. Some couples choose to go to a therapist during their divorce. They don’t do this to try and save their relationship, but rather to learn how to communicate and care for one another in their new roles as co-parents who aren’t together.
Divorce, even positive divorce, can be challenging emotionally, financially, and physically. If it’s possible for you to do so, consider taking some time off of work to focus on getting well. If you can’t take time off altogether, consider some of the following tips to take care of yourself while the divorce is ongoing:
- Spend lots of time with your children;
- Do things you love, whether reading, going to museums, hiking, etc.
- Make sure you’re eating well, are exercising regularly, and are getting enough sleep.
- Try to avoid alcohol and processed foods when possible. Clean foods like product, nuts, meats, and seeds can help boost your energy.
- Volunteer at a local organization.
- Focus on improving your financial situation.
These are just some tips. The best way for you to take care of yourself will vary based on your needs and your interests.
There are two things to focus on: Communication and cooperation
For the best possible outcome, you should look for ways to communicate successful and cooperate when it comes to your kids. At Kendall Gkikas & Mitchell, we’ve found that one of the best ways to communicate is to do so through your attorney. This allows you to quickly and easily get the information you need without the worry of added stress.
If you’re ready to move forward in the most positive way possible then Kendall Gkikas & Mitchell invites you to call our offices today at 909-482-1422. We are here to support you and your family. Call today to learn how to move forward.
