It may sound like an oxymoron to have a positive divorce – after all, no one gets married hoping to get divorced. While we at Kendall Gkikas & Mitchell know that this is a challenging time for anyone, we’ve also seen enough clients go through it to know that there are steps you can take to ensure it’s not worse than it has to be. Here are five things that can help ensure you get through this as easily as possible.
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Protect your dignity
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Be aware of impulsive behavior
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Don’t chase your ex-spouse
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Remember that divorce is a beginning
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Work with the right attorney
The first stages of divorce are an emotional time. It’s not uncommon to have the urge to beg your partner to come back and try to make it work, or to turn to social media and spill the beans about your relationship. While these may seem like reasonable things to do at the time, rest assured that if you send your ex a long letter explaining how you feel about them, you’ll wish you hadn’t.
We’ve seen it time and time again – perfectly rational, logical people doing completely irrational things during a divorce. This is common during the shock phase of the divorce and it can lead to some damaging impulsive behavior like maxing out credit cards, destroying property, or spreading rumors. Give yourself time to heal after the dissolution of your marriage and don’t give in to these temporary feelings of impulsivity.
It’s incredibly common for a married couple to get a separation, start the divorce, arbitration, or litigation process and then suddenly have a change of heart. Certainly, if you and your spouse agree that you should try again, go to counseling, or otherwise try to repair your relationship, then that may be a decision worth considering. However, chasing after your ex, going on a crash diet to try and be more appealing, dating just to make them jealous, or other things you may be tempted to do are just going to make you feel worse.
Most people think of divorce as an ending, and is that – but that’s not all it is. It’s also the beginning of a new life. There will be both ups and downs to ending your relationship. You can’t prevent the downs but you can focus on and appreciate the ups.
When you work with the experienced attorneys at Kendall Gkikas & Mitchell, you can rest easy that you’ve made the right choice. We know that there isn’t a one-size-fits-all divorce out there. Some clients want the process to be as quick and painless as possible. Others want to fight for the settlements they deserve.
No matter where you are today, or where you’re trying to get to, you can count on Kendall Gkikas & Mitchell to be with you every step of the way. Contact us today at 909-482-1422 to set up your consultation.
